That is the question we posed to ourselves in response to a presentation given by Eric Siegel of the New York Hall of Science. His talk revolved around the concept of “informal learning” and the position that museums—particularly science museums—occupy in mediating both play and education. According to Siegel, primary school constitutes only a small fraction of the average lifespan, college even less so. That leaves approximately three quarters of our lives, when sleep is factored out, available for the informal learning process, supported by resources like museums, libraries, the internet, friends, and family.

Our response to his discussion solidified with our own visit to the New York Hall of Science a few days later. While the educational experience remained central to the conversation, we became keenly interested in how this plays out within important social structures—particularly the relationship between a parent and child. As we bounced from exhibit to exhibit, playing and trying to glean knowledge along the way, we also took note of those around us who were similarly drawn together. A father and his sons laughing in front of curved mirrors or a mother and her children bending light with prisms also brought to mind our own experiences of fun and learning. How might we share a similar channel of communication with our classmates?

We decided to invite those individuals who have played such an influential role in each of our lives into the classroom itself.
The following week, as each student entered the room, we provided them an envelope containing a piece of paper and instructed them to pair off in preparation for our presentation. With a brief introduction, we proceeded to model a phone call that our classmates would soon follow. Each student then proceeded to call a close relation—preferably a parent, but if unavailable a spouse or friend would suffice. Once contacted, the student then gave the phone over to his/her partner who asked the parent of the student four prepared questions.

1. Tell me about a time this person learned something from you.
2. What is something you hope for this person to learn?
3. What pushed this person to learn what they’ve learned?
4. What is this person up to at graduate school?
This provided an unusual context to pose somewhat personal questions to a stranger and invite them to share the answers with their son/daughter by way of the partner. Aside from an opportunity to make contact with someone important during a busy time such as grad school, this was intended to be a gift for the student. As the conversation progressed, the partner would write down the parent’s answer on the paper we provided and, in the end, give it to the student, folded into the envelope. The roles were then reversed and the exercise repeated for the other person.

In all, over one hundred classmates participated in the presentation simultaneously. After these phone calls wrapped up and the partners had a chance to share the answers with one another, we projected a video of campfire on a large screen and proceeded to discuss the insights and responses to the situation we had arranged. While many people felt vulnerable, they also appreciated the chance to reconnect from a different angle, even in the midst of an institutional learning environment.